Fear of Not Being Cared For

This fear causes you to feel as if there’s no one to care for your needs except you. Even while you look for the joy of being cared for by others, you struggle with being able to care for yourself. You can recognize this fear when you believe your own needs are a problem. When others are caring for themselves in a healthy way, your fear interprets their actions as selfish. It tells you that you’ve been abandoned and are alone, inviting you to be a martyr for the cause rather than caring for yourself in a healthy way also.

HOT AIR BALLOON

You get inflated with enthusiasm, hyped up on new ideas, and chase the next adventure, but you aren’t centered or anchored to any fundamentals. When the winds of change start swirling you come crashing down. Rather than building through a transformation gradually, you focus on the next burst, which ultimately leads to a burst that brings you down.

What you value is an important element for any successful team or organization. However, in limbo moments when you feel stress, pressure, change or uncertainty, your values will become out-of-balance, causing you to build unbalanced teams and create an unbalanced culture.

The core value of those with this fear is Engagement. Without awareness, in times of stress you will overvalue Activity and undervalue Stillness.

Every leader pursuing an ambitious horizon experiences doubts. You will experience relational doubts ("Do they like me?") and you will experience mission doubts ("Am I doing a good job?"). At the root of it all is a mindset doubt.

If this is your top fear, your core doubt is "I doubt I will get what I need". Here are also a few questions that may help you see and understand your doubt better.

You may choose to move on from challenging situations too soon, without regard for your commitments.

No one has your back. You need to avoid putting yourself at risk.